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I Workout

I can say that today. I couldn’t say that yesterday or at anytime during the holiday season. I decided on a little break after the Halloween season ended. It was long and we had many shows and I just wanted to chill a little after. I said it was going to be a week off but it was not. It was two months.

I can officially say that was a bad idea. It was like I had never worked out before. I lost all the progress I made working really hard last year. I have to re-stretch, re-strengthen, and re-everything else. I’ll do it. I’ve been worse off. I’ve gone from October all the way to May and panicked when the weather got warm and I’m still in my winter body. I’m not doing that again at least.

It’s not so bad. By February I’ll be in better shape to start toning things. I’ll have gotten rid of the holiday weight I gained. I won’t give out numbers but I didn’t hit double digits which I was quite pleased about. Not bad for two months off!!

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Day one

So I juiced for breakfast and lunch. I was planning to go cold turkey but I read an article today that said not to do that so I ate some vegetables for dinner. Eggplant, chickpeas, parsley, tomato. It was all very Greek food. Tomorrow and the next day no chewing. Juices and smoothies. Thursday the 4th will be all juice all day for at least three days and up to 15 days depending on how I go. Let the healing begin!!

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Bring the Healing

I have a couple of medical problems going on. The main one is my damaged esophagus. I’m not sure what damaged it. I went to the doctor and had a test I can’t remember the name of right now. They knocked me out and shoved a camera down my throat. They said it’s just irritated and come back in a year if it doesn’t go away. Well, I woke up with this problem on December 21, 2016 and now it exactly one year later. I haven’t healed at all. It’s exactly the same.

The western medicine people told me to take antacids. I tried that and it made me sicker so now I’m going in the other direction. I’m going full on juice. Yes, I’m doing the same thing that the fat, sick, and nearly dead guy did. All juice all day giving my body the chance to heal itself. He suggests seeing a doctor before you start but I’ve already done that. I’m risking it on my own.

I’m starting on January 1st for 3 days. If my body doesn’t freak out in those days I will add on 7 making it 10 days. I’ll see how that all goes before deciding what to do next. I’m excited and worried. Excited about what good things will happen and worried about any bad. I’ll tell you, if it works I’m going to be changing everything in the future. If this esophagus thing goes away I’ll be making sure it doesn’t come back.

Stay tuned!! I’ll start reporting how it goes on 1/1/18. And if anyone has done this and has any advice, I’m open to suggestion and/or warnings.

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Is Anybody Out There??

Today I’m taking a memoir writing class.  I thought this might help me be a better blog writer.  And then maybe people will actually read my blog.  To be fair, I don’t tell people it’s here.  I don’t post entries to fb or twitter mainly because I don’t think they are very good.  This class is my first step to changing that.  We’ll see how it goes.

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Why I Wont Post ‘Me Too’

I understand what women are trying to do but thinking about putting ‘Me Too’ in my status and just being one of the many slashes collected makes it feel normal to me.  Like the same thing happens to everyone when each story is extremely different.  I agree it happens more than people think.  I agree change is needed and now is the time.  I’ve been more vocal about this on Twitter.  But being part of the collection of facebooking victims saying ‘yeah, they got me’ triggered me.  That’s why I’m writing here instead.

Each time it happened to me is a vivid memory.  (Yes, it happened more than once). And announcing it in a generalized form sells it way short for me.  But I will share most of my stories with people who ask me.  Stories that I think will help people anyway.  Want to know something, ask away.  I would love to help make this stop happening.  And I think we have begun.  Assaulters and harassers are going to think about HW each time they consider trapping a women in an office.  Perhaps they will realize that more women tell now that there is a movement and they might stop in their tracks.  Yes, I do think we are on our way.

And I honor every women who posts ‘Me Too.’  They are brave and they are doing what they need to do.  Every little bit helps.  This is just how I needed to do it.  It’s a very personal thing for each of us.

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The Waiting is the Hardest Part

Now that the Harvey Weinstein thing has come out right on the heels of the James Woods thing I wrote about in my last post, my head has been spinning a little too much.  I follow Rose McGowen and Amber Tamblyn on Twitter and I see guys making comments and shaming women for waiting to come forward.  I’m surprised that people don’t understand why women stay silent or delay saying anything for years or decades.  The reason is so simple.

Women get attacked or harassed and immediately go into shock.  Is this really happening to me right now??  This is not what I thought it was??  Then when they get out of the situation they question themselves first.  Why did I go to this place??  Why did I wear this??  Did I smile when I shouldn’t have??  These things all go through her mind even if she knows that these are not reasons or consent for attack.  Then the shame and worry.  I hope no one finds out.  If I tell anyone, no one will believe me.  They’ll call me a whore.  Our mutual friends/associates will take his side because they won’t want to believe this about him.  I know they will take his side.  I KNOW it.  The friends/associates that believe me will have a rift with the ones that believe him.  There will be a rift.  I don’t want to cause a rift.  I must avoid the rift.  Silence.  I need to remain silent.  No good will come if I don’t remain silent.

All is buried and life goes on fine until she finds out he did it to someone else.  Then a new path of guilt emerges.  If I would have said something maybe this would not have happened to her.  Then she comes forward only to be called a liar and be questioned by the people who ride the “why wait” train.

These are the next attacks.  Different ways to attack and shame the victim who did nothing to bring on or deserve the attack from the perp, the attacks from the perp supporters and, of course, the ones from herself.  There is absolutely no way to win.  That’s why they stay silent.  That’s why we stay silent.

(I shook the whole time I wrote this.  I’m still shaking and I’m not an actress or any part of the Hollywood machine.  I’m nobody and I’m scared so I can’t even imagine the guts it takes for someone with an entire career on the line,  I am in awe of your bravery!!)

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Book Two

I have a new pick for the Jez book club.  I just finished Dark Sparkler by Amber Tamblyn.  Now I never knew Ms. Tamblyn was a writer at all.  I knew her as the lesbian from Two and a Half Men and the wife of David Cross (who I think is so funny).  I came across her books of poetry after I saw a news report saying she came forward with the fact that James Woods tried to get her to go to Las Vegas with him when she was a minor.  This was a long time ago.  She came out now because Mr. Woods was making a negative comment about a movie Armie Hammer has coming out where someone is in a relationship with a minor.  I don’t know much about this movie, it wasn’t what drew my attention.

What drew my attention was the instant bravery of Amber Tamblyn to be all, wait a minute–you are a hypocrite and a dude who’s guilty of this yourself.  She had to know there would be backlash, denying and lying, James Woods devotees who would not believe her, others who question her part in it (yes, the part of an innocent minor minding her own business in a restaurant). We all know how these things go nearly 100% of the time.  She came forward anyway.  I’m in awe because I’m not that brave.

Anyway, I read this and then started following her on twitter.  I then got to read her follow up op-ed in The NY Times and her open letter to James Woods after he, of course, denied it.  (Both are retweeted onto my twitter wall if you want to read them @JezFever). Anyway, I was moved by both these writings and then found out she has books.

So Dark Sparkler is a poetry book with poems dedicated to famous women who died too young.  There are many:  Jean Harlow, Brittany Murphy, Sharon Tate, Rebecca Shaeffer, and Dana Plato to name a few.  Some I didn’t know were dead, like the girl who played the lead in Savannah Smiles.  Some I didn’t know their stories, like Heather O’Rourke (Poltergeist) who had a wrong diagnoses and died at twelve.  My favorites were Peg Entwhistle and Frances Farmer.

Peg Entwhistle was an actress who died at 24.  She was unhappy about how her career was going so she climbed up to the Hollywoodland sign and hung herself off the H.  Fascinating!!  Who decides they are so despondent that they need end their life and then takes the time to do something so poetic as to hang themselves off of the Hollywood sign??  No one will ever know what went through her young mind that day but seriously, she is as famous as she wanted to be for it but not around to enjoy it.

Frances Farmer was an actress who spent a majority of her life in and out hospitals because of various psychiatric problems.  Tamblyn writes of her:

“Frances opened her mouth to answer

A bug crawled out, fell to the ground

And burrowed right back into a hole in her foot.”

I felt like I, myself had some sort of mental issues when I was reading about someone with mental issues.  I liked that.  I don’t know why.  This was my favorite poem in the book.

Anyway, I’m not going to pretend I knew every name when going though the poems of this book.  I had my computer with me so I could google names I didn’t know and google the stories if those I did.  It took me back to my college days when I was getting my English degree.  A novel was never just a novel back then.  And this is not just a book of poems.  It’s a collection of tragedy.  And I still don’t know if it made me depressed or ready to change my life.  Either way it’s totally worth a read.

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